Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Distant Reflections

So far away
A sense of longing
I'm overwhelmed
I miss you

Thoughts are racing
There's no sound
Just the music in my ears
The air is dry
No one around
My face wet with tears

I love you
More than I thought I did
Your eyes reflect my thoughts
They beg me to come closer

I'm scared
And I don't know why
I guess I'm afraid to jump
To take the plunge
To trust you

How do you know it'll be fine?
How do you know it'll be okay?
You love me
I guess that's enough
Enough for me to believe
You're here to stay :)

I guess I question what's imminent
I suppose I doubt
I know I shouldn't
[together we're never apart]

Hold me

Remind me
Of what it is I'm trying to say
I love you
And need you
Never leave, it's here I'll stay

I won't question what's imminent
I'll never doubt
It's you I want
Together we're never apart

No Kids Allowed

In today’s society we see hundreds and possibly even thousands of teenagers in search of love. They want what their parents and other adults have; they want to find security in a significant other. Yet, they don’t quite have the maturity to be responsible enough for the commitment!

So you have two people. They’re genuinely attracted to each other and decide to pursue a relationship. They’re hopeful that this new chapter in their life will become something special that will ultimately lead to marriage. They’re hopeful that this person could be their life-long soul mate. Things look good for a while, but somehow something breaks down between them causing heartache, frustration, loneliness, and, more often than not, the scenario repeats itself in other relationships down the line.

Some people blame dating itself for this roller coaster of emotions, and deem dating as an unhealthy activity. They would rather find an alternative, such as group friendships, until two people have selected each other to court exclusively. Your choice really depends on what kind of person you are.

Dating does have its risks. Now that doesn’t necessarily mean that teenagers shouldn’t date, but it does mean one’s maturity is very important here. By its very nature, dating is experimental, with little commitment initially, so someone can get out of a relationship without having to justify himself much. Putting lots of emotional investment into a relationship can be very dangerous. Thus, dating works best between two responsible people.

Many of the struggles people experience in dating are, at heart, caused by some problem in the area of freedom, caused by some problem in the area of responsibility. By freedom, I mean one’s ability to make choices based on one’s own values, rather than choosing out of fear or of guilt. Free people make commitments because they feel it’s the right thing to do, and they are whole-hearted about their decision. By responsibility, I mean one’s ability to execute tasks in keeping the relationship healthy and loving, as well as one’s ability to say “no” to things you shouldn’t be doing. Responsible people bear their part of the dating relationship, but they don’t tolerate harmful or inappropriate behavior.

In the end, dating is about people seeking love. When they find love, and it matures, they often make deep commitments to each other. Freedom and responsibility are necessary for love to develop in dating. When two individuals allow each other freedom and take ownership of the relationship, they are creating an atmosphere for love to grow and mature. Freedom and responsibility create a safe and secure environment for a couple to love, trust, explore, and deepen their experiences of each other.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Awakening

Today I realized something;
I realized I've been asleep.
I've been living this life,
From day to day,
As if life were just a dream.
Bearing no burdens,
Bearing no shame,
Dreaming each hour and minute away!
This dream is constant.
Never ending.
This is the truth,
I'm not pretending.
I will wake up,
I'll shake this off,
Begin living my life,
And get off the floor.
I'll open my eyes,
And start getting dressed,
Watch my first sunrise
Again and again.
I'll open my eyes
And unlock the door.
I'll live out my life
As I should have before.

The Dream

Paper and pencils

Long walks and utensils

Black hearts and red roses

It stops, then it poses

My shoes are unmatching

My soul it is catching

The city lights shine brightly

I cling to your arm tightly

Together, yet alone

I am with you on my own

I hate this emptiness

Want to let go of selfishness

I love you please don’t change

Want to be with you every day

Despite my imperfections

You chose me by selection

Put together broken pieces

With glue and love, no recess

Lachrymose and shaking

Is my heart yours for the breaking?

You take me and you hold me

And reassure you love me

You look into my eyes and swear

You’ll always stay and always care

You take me then and kiss me

And say that you will miss me

I wake up then and realize

This was a dream no compromise

Tears flowing down, my pillow’s wet

This was a dream I won’t forget

I know my dream will always be

A dream for all eternity

So I’ll go back to sleep and pray

My dream will come, and I, in it, stay

Shattered Soul

As time goes on, my soul is ignored

Like the door to the room that’s gone unexplored.

Like an empty house that people abandoned,

Dusty and dirty, my soul, I imagine.

The windows that I used to look in to see,

The soul that was once so reflective of me,

Are shattered and broken, too hard to repair!

Now remembering, I drop to my knees in despair.

The soul I once thought to be my dearest friend,

I’ve left with that old house that no one will mend.

Cobwebs and spiders, my soul’s roommates are.

Alone and unwanted, what’s left? Just a scar;

A wound in my heart that will never cure!

Consequences of which, I’ll have to endure.